Right, this is just about the kids. Her looking for a job here has nothing to do with you looking for a job here. Just like sleeping with C had nothing to do with the emotional distance that 'developed' in our marriage back in 98, S had nothing to do with you planning to leave me in 07, and the other C had nothing to do with you leaving me in 09. All of those were just coincidences. The skanks you are with never have anything to do with anything.